Time boundaries are crucial to thriving in millennial motherhood. Without them, moms will burnout and have no time to invest in themselves and their passions. Today I’m sharing three every mom should have and hold. Listen to my podcast episode below if audio content is more your style!
What are time boundaries?
Time Boundaries are how people spend their time throughout the day, week and year. Having healthy time boundaries means a person allocates enough time to themselves, their work, their family, their friends and their pastimes.
Time boundaries are violated when another person demands too much of someone’s time. This can look like a demanding mother-in-law insisting the whole family gets together every Sunday night for dinner, even when the daughter-in-law doesn’t want to.
Or when a boss requires their employee to respond to texts and emails at all hours, requiring the employee to be dialed in and checking their phone constantly. This is unhealthy and unethical. Time boundaries must be communicated and upheld to end this toxic behavior.
Whether you work outside the house or are a SAHM, you need to have time boundaries when it comes to work, volunteering, or being the go-to person that acts as back-up childcare and errand girl.
Cut back on taking work home with you and designate a certain amount of hours to help people every month and when you hit the limit, say no to the subsequent request.
Having time boundaries in your home can feel odd, but they are essential to fend off burnout. When it comes to your kid’s nighttime requests, let them know that you are no longer there to help after a specific time. So if they need permission slips signed or homework help, they better do it promptly.
You can also have time boundaries with your partner if you need a few nights a week to watch Bravo or get together with friends. Communication is key.
Friends and Family
This one is typically the most challenging boundary to set and hold for millennial women. We’re so accustomed to attending every family event and social gathering we forget to ask ourselves if we enjoy them. Often the older women in our lives guilt us into attending events because they always did what was expected of them.
Be the cycle breaker and set limits on how much time you spend with family and friends. You deserve to have your own interests and time for yourself. Don’t let others think you don’t.
Taran is a self-proclaimed undomestic mom. She thrives as a stay-at-home-mom by consistently carving out time for herself and practicing realistic self-care. As a busy mom of 3, she knows that if mama ain’t happy, nobody’s happy! With a focus on how SAHMs can carve out time for themselves everyday, she teaches fellow SAHMs how they can do the same.